Blog — polyvagal theory

When someone reaches out to me about their dog's behavior, they are usually looking for a training solution. They want to know how to stop the barking, the reactivity, the jumping, the pulling, or the anxiety. They are understandably focused on the behavior they can see because that is what is affecting their daily lives. However, behavior is rarely the first thing I look at. A dog's behavior is the outward expression of everything happening beneath the surface. It is influenced by their physical health, their nervous system, their emotional experiences, their daily lifestyle, and whether their biological needs are...

Recently, I was caring for a very sensitive and anxious dog staying in my home. He was struggling to settle and seemed to be carrying a great deal of tension in his body. Rather than asking anything of him or trying to interrupt the behavior, I decided to focus on slowing myself down first. I became quiet and still, softened my posture, slowed my breathing, and began using slow blinks and soft eyes in his direction. Within a few moments, his body language changed noticeably. His expression softened, he turned away peacefully, and then chose to go lay down on...

Many people assume that any walk is automatically beneficial for dogs, but that is not always true. For a large number of dogs—especially sensitive, anxious, reactive, or chronically stressed dogs—the typical neighborhood walk can actually be quite overwhelming to the nervous system. Busy sidewalks, barking dogs behind fences, traffic sounds, unpredictable encounters with people or other dogs, leash tension, and constant environmental stimulation can keep a dog in a heightened physiological state rather than helping them relax. While humans often view walks primarily as physical exercise, dogs experience them through an entirely different sensory and emotional lens. This is one...

There is a profound difference between a dog who is regulated and a dog who is chemically restrained. If we do not understand that distinction clearly, it becomes very easy to mistake nervous system suppression for healing. One of the things I see often in behavior work is dogs being described as “doing better” on medication because they appear quieter, slower, less reactive, or less outwardly expressive. From the outside, it can look like progress. But sometimes, underneath that quieter presentation, the nervous system is actually carrying more distress, not less. This conversation becomes especially important when multiple sedating or...

Somatic Safety & Consent Checklist Use this checklist to monitor the "Window of Tolerance" for both yourself and your dog during somatic sessions. 1. The "Opt-In" Signals (Green Light) These indicators suggest the nervous system is regulated and open to learning or connection. The "Soft Eye": Pupils are normal size (not dilated) and the gaze is relaxed rather than fixated. The Shake-Off: A full-body shake (like drying off from water) after an intense exercise; this signifies the successful discharge of arousal. Weight Shift: The dog shifts its weight into its hindquarters or leans its body weight into your touch. The...