Blog — Your Dog Is Your Mirror

Understanding Co-Regulation Through the Nervous System Polyvagal-informed work with dogs centers around one core idea: behavior is a reflection of nervous system state. When your dog is reactive, shut down, overly excited, or unable to settle, they are not choosing those responses—they are moving through different autonomic states designed for survival. Co-regulation is the process of influencing your dog’s nervous system through your presence, your actions, and the experiences you create together. Your dog is constantly reading your body language, tone, and energy, and adjusting their own state in response. This means that regulation is not something you “teach” in...

  The polyvagal theory implies that more attention needs to be paid to the development of interventions that either promote activation of the social vagus or dampen sympathetic tone. One major implication is the need to pay closer attention the therapeutic use of play, rough and tumble behaviors that serve as preliminary exercises to develop adaptive defensive and aggressive behaviors, as a means of shifting people [and dogs] out of fight-or-flight reactions into loving and mutually engaged mobilization. --Bessel A. van der Kolk, in the foreword to: The Polyvagal Theory by Dr. Stephen W. Porges Play as Connection and Regulation Mirroring...

  All I want for Christmas this year is for everyone (including myself!) to stop romanticizing dogs. Yes, that's right, dogs are not Disney characters. I think we've been weirdly conditioned by movies like "Lady and the Tramp" and "101 Dalmations" to feel that dogs are just like us: They want to live indoors and eat spaghetti, raise their babies among humans, walk through city parks, and enjoy watching TV by the fire as much as we do. Dogs are actually still so closely related to wolves that they can interbreed with them. This, by some opinions, makes them the...

  Mindset matters! Grow your emotional capacity by learning how to deal with stress and making room for feelings! Kajsa explains to us how radical acceptance of stressful situations and the feelings that they produce can bring us closer to a sense of peace and well being. Kajsa is a mindset coach who helps guardians of challenging dogs reduce stress and anxiety in their life. This episode is incredibly useful for those struggling with their feelings about having a reactive dog in their care.    Kajsa's Coaching Website: https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/ Kajsa and Rusty on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theruscattledog Ruff Around the Edges Podcast:...

How your energy, intention, and emotional state affect your dog... Your dog wants to be acknowledged. Not just managed, corrected, or trained—but seen for who they are as an individual. Your dog has their own personality, preferences, sensitivities, and emotional world. They have strengths and weaknesses, things they enjoy and things that overwhelm them. Like any relationship, trust is built when those things are recognized and respected. At the heart of it, your dog wants to feel understood.They want to trust that you see them clearly—and that they’re not expected to suppress everything they feel just to “perform” for you....