I know this approach can feel a bit abstract at times. It’s natural to want clear “steps” or a recipe for success. But because we take a somatic, individualized approach—meeting each dog as they are—it’s not always possible to apply a one-size-fits-all formula. That said, having a simple framework can be incredibly helpful, so here’s a template to guide you.
1. Observe
Start by truly seeing your dog. Take time to notice what’s actually happening—body language, energy, patterns, and overall state. What is your dog communicating? What situations bring out certain behaviors? Write your observations down if that helps you stay objective and clear.
2. Acknowledge and Accept
Once you’ve gathered information, the next step is acceptance. This can be the hardest part—especially if your dog is displaying behaviors you don’t like. But it’s also the most important. Real change can’t happen from denial. I’ve been there myself, overlooking issues in my own dogs that could have been addressed much earlier. Acceptance creates a grounded starting point.
3. Manage and Protect
With clarity and acceptance in place, you can begin managing the environment. This means setting your dog up for success while keeping everyone safe—including your dog. Management might look like avoiding certain triggers, using a crate, guiding interactions with guests, or establishing clear boundaries. This isn’t avoidance—it’s thoughtful support.
4. Train and Transform
Now comes the fun part. Instead of thinking in terms of “fixing” your dog, think in terms of transformation. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s progress. Your dog may never fit a rigid ideal, and that’s okay. Focus on helping them feel more confident, regulated, and capable. Small, meaningful changes add up over time.
5. Reflect and Adjust
As things begin to shift, return to observation. What’s improving? Where is your dog still struggling? Is their confidence growing? Keeping notes or a training journal can help you track progress and make thoughtful adjustments. Avoid getting stuck in one approach—even if it was recommended by a professional. As your dog changes, your approach should evolve too.
This creates a positive feedback loop: your dog feels better, behaves differently, and you respond in ways that further support their growth. Over time, that loop becomes the foundation for lasting change.